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Culture War Roundup for the week of January 13, 2025

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I know a guy who married a prostitute made good

That wording makes it sound like a relationship with an ex-sex-worker, not a current sex-worker. Or at least the guy thought they were no longer a sex-worker and turned out to be wrong about that.

If the guy believed being "good" requires not being a sex worker, then I can see how the relationship went poorly.

"Made good" is a turn of phrase. He married her. They were (supposed to be) in a committed, monogamous relationship for several years. There was some tension there, it's true, but he also did his level best to get her back on her feet and help her build the financial independence and social life she'd never been able to achieve on her own.

I think you have a very idealised view of 'sex workers'. This particular girl wasn't a free spirit being imprisoned by her awful sex-negative husband, she was a sweet, lonely girl who lacked the innate sense of self to turn down anything that made her feel good in the moment. She had been doing this since she left school, and it had left her physically broken and worn out in certain important ways. The cosmetic alterations she got, or had been encouraged to get by her pimp, had long term consequences that ruined her health. I can't say for sure, but I think she realised that she was rapidly running out of road, tried to escape, and kept getting dragged back in by drug addiction, criminal family members and chronically low time-preference.

Or at least the guy thought they were no longer a sex-worker and turned out to be wrong about that.

That's a rather strange reading of what he said. Nowhere in there was any mention of her returning to prostitution.

If the guy believed being "good" requires not being a sex worker, then I can see how the relationship went poorly.

You think she'd be showing him undying loyalty otherwise?

That's a rather strange reading of what he said. Nowhere in there was any mention of her returning to prostitution.

How did you interpret

cheating on him when she wanted more spending money

then?


You think she'd be showing him undying loyalty otherwise?

No, but believing your partner is fundamentally a bad person sounds like a poor basis for a trusting relationship.