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I came to the sober (heh) realisation a long time ago that I'm much more charismatic when I'm drinking. However I've cut my drinking down for my own benefit, not for others and if sobriety damages my relationships, so be it.
In the past I'd have these Tinder dates where the girl was really into me on the first date when we were drinking and then would lose interest on the second date when I was sober. It happened quite a few times until I realised I needed to switch to coffee so they could see more of who I really was day to day.
Regarding ritual, I've had mild success with switching to uncaffeinated herbal teas in the evening to have something to do when I
couldn'tshouldn't eat or drink alcohol. I've had mixed success with zero alcohol beers when socialising with drinkers. They still seem like they want you to get drunk with them.Non alcohol beers I also tried, but soda water wins. The 0 alc beers in Japan have a bizarre taste (I tried about 4 different brands), and maybe it was just my mind but I got a weird, non-buzz but definitely weird feeling after drinking a couple. As if my body were telling me "This is not something you should be drinking."
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