The Wednesday Wellness threads are meant to encourage users to ask for and provide advice and motivation to improve their lives. It isn't intended as a 'containment thread' and any content which could go here could instead be posted in its own thread. You could post:
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Requests for advice and / or encouragement. On basically any topic and for any scale of problem.
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Updates to let us know how you are doing. This provides valuable feedback on past advice / encouragement and will hopefully make people feel a little more motivated to follow through. If you want to be reminded to post your update, see the post titled 'update reminders', below.
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Advice. This can be in response to a request for advice or just something that you think could be generally useful for many people here.
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Encouragement. Probably best directed at specific users, but if you feel like just encouraging people in general I don't think anyone is going to object. I don't think I really need to say this, but just to be clear; encouragement should have a generally positive tone and not shame people (if people feel that shame might be an effective tool for motivating people, please discuss this so we can form a group consensus on how to use it rather than just trying it).
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My perspective on this was colored heavily by a now deleted video of survivethejive where he talks about the ideal of byron's "cultured thug", a man who combines good aspects you do not see together, a jock nerd for instance. I can comment on social life however and the simple answer is to say hi to everyone, go out more, cold approach more girls and if you really need it, ask for explicit help on this topic.
We also are far more online and live in a much faker world. e/acc is a LARP by people who have never read Land and lindy is quite solid about everything, look at Steve Maxwell. Also, you develop better instincts if you have more discipline. A lot of what we do is made of sub habits we are totally unaware of, for every scholar who works late at night, there were plenty who followed routines and rituals and were just as creative. David Lynch is a super creative director, one of the best of his times who lives by the same routine daily.
Not smart or successful so take anything I say with a grain of salt.
This is a very real concern, I apologise for my suggestions, I was unaware that you were married and had kids. Atomization of the individual is quite sad, I come here for similar reasons as people where I live just are not the best. I still try to say hi to everyone, irl or online and that helps me a lot.
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I mean, the answer is that you’re probably not putting yourself out there socially the same way as your grandfather was. You can go to church and hang out and talk to other people afterwards, you can join the elks, you can talk to your neighbors.
These things still exist.
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