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Completely fair. I have posted about India thrice, twice if you talk about simply local events here. Indiaposting does get tiring.
My aim is mostly to point out some other worldly acts of social justice combined with corruption. I used to find headlines, absurd ones about courts in England letting go of obvious criminals due to these reasons, this is kind of like that.
Divroce rape is a very common thing, I learnt about it first from MRAs in the anglosphere. Never quite expected any news from my nation be talked about people beyond just the locals.
I wouldn't mind hearing more about gender dynamics in India, particularly as it relates to your personal experiences if you have anything more to share. It's admittedly pretty amusing to scroll through the twitter of 6FeetChadAryan and see beta vs. chad dynamics, gynocracy and boomers mentioned in between references to Hindu mythology like this. I'm curious about the references to Dowry Act. Are dowries still common, even in urban areas among upwardly mobile/educated people like the engineer in question?
Dowries are highly variable in commonality across India these days, and at least de jure illegal.
It's quite common to see them not even raised, but just as often, it's things like the family of the bride buying something along the lines of an apartment or a car for the new couple, or offering "gifts".
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I'll write something original soon then lol, they are fucked here
Very, earlier, you didn't have banks so a father would send his daughter off to get married and the division of property was only done among male heirs, dowry was money that was sent to help the bride and the groom out. Post 1947, traditional society broke down, dowry became more inflated so did wedding expenditure as people used them both to signal.
Nowadays it's still a thing, parents of the bride send money out of their own goodwill in a lot of cases but at the same time most cases of it are well and truly evil. Most people here aren't nice, they extort the bride so the laws are 100 percent in the right theoretically. It's that the low trust, scarcity based society leads to people literally scamming others.
In most urban upper middle class or higher cases, the dowry is voluntary and not a super significant amount of the girls parents assets. It's a way to signal status and many communities don't practice it. Otoh, urban middle class uses these laws the most for extortion.
Lol, Hindu twitter is not the smartest, it's quite stale but it's super funny at times. I used to be a hallowed anon poster until I quit in 2021 out of frustration.
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