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Was it Larkin Love?
ETA: FWIW, I did know someone online about as long ago, who did have EDS, and she was wheelchair-bound, and she could do that eyebrow-raising hyperextension it apparently causes.
Now that's a blast from the past.
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Holy shit, it wasn’t So this goes even deeper than I imagined. How many are there?
Edit: Upon reflection the naming of “Suicide Girls” is just too wonderful and appropriate to my post. God smiles on me
IMO, I believe the most likely reasons women become porn models are being the victim of childhood sexual abuse, or having severe problems with depression, anxiety, and self-esteem, which is satiated by having so much attention by people who think you’re hot that they’re willing to pay you. Both conditions are heavily associated with suicidality.
Typically there’s a period of just promiscuity first, followed by exhibitionism, and then monetization of that exhibitionism. The depressed-pick-me-to-OF-model pathway is well-trod.
Do you have a source for this? Like I would assume women who enter sex work of any sort have basically the same story- poor, cute, and without options.
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