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Come on ya'll we can be better than /r/relationshipadvice
It's possible that the advice of others is the correct way to go, and it may be the case, but don't do it prematurely. People are freaked out right now and the average woman is more vulnerable to that. She may calm down acutely, in which case the fight is not necessary. Like most she will probably calm down in the long run but it would be a serious question of what time horizon you need for people to go normal.
I know totally normal women who are saying nobody should have sex with men anymore. It histrionic nonsense. If you can tolerate taking Trump non literally you can tolerate this haha (again assuming it has hope to be temporary).
The definitions of "totally normal" are getting stretched really wide nowadays.
Wokeness is widely popular with women and necessarily involves holding together a lot of contradictory opinions, so the training is out there. Consider the modern dating market - women still want a man who is masculine, pays, etc. but they also want feminist girl bosses at the same time. These things don't work together, but they manage.
Cultural acceptability is what is normal. Lots of culturally acceptable believes are unwise or harmful, however.
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Goatse levels of stretch.
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There's a joke in here somewhere but I'm not the one to make it.
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I don't think anyone is saying it needs to be brought up proactively, just pointing out that if it does come up it'll be ok in the end no matter what happens.
I know it's kind of off-topic, but I would not call those totally normal women lol. Anyone who says that unironically is crazy.
If they are still saying it in a in two months they are crazy, for now? Just angry.
Women tend to interact with the world in a more bubble and consensus oriented way, the ego damage when that gets popped leads to immature defense mechanisms aka the batshit insanity. Most people will course correct.
It's crazy on day one. It's a wild overreaction and a normal, well-adjusted person would understand that.
Ehhhhh I think you underestimate how consensus reality holders feel about things. Most of us here aren't really about that kinda thinking but it is wildly popular, and plenty of otherwise well adjusted little to no other abnormal belief people are shitting absolute bricks right now.
Note that I didn't say "if you're shitting bricks about Trump winning you're crazy", though. It's very specifically the idea of "all women should punish all men by refusing to have sex with them" that I called crazy (and it is). A normal, well-adjusted person isn't going to immediately jump to punishing half of the country because of an election result.
How many Jewish/Italian/Irish/Black etc... women do you know.
They'll say it, but only a fraction will actually believe it.
My wife is black, is upset about the election results (more than I think she should be tbh), and she isn't saying stuff like that. Of course, if she was crazy enough to overreact on that level I wouldn't have married her. /shrug
Yeah I mean their are variations in personality and certainly some men are like this, but a large portion of my social group is going off right now and yeah that includes people from "histrionic" backgrounds but also lots Asians and so on who are all freaking out because they are deep in the woke bubble and panicking and huffing propaganda. This is people with graduate degrees mind you.
Most of them will calm down.
I'm not saying this is normal in the sense that is healthy, but it is reasonably common in certain social groups (yikes).
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