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Other commenters have said the right thing to say - "If you're so incompatible at a values level, it's good to get it over with and move on." That is thoroughly correct. But, I'd like to highlight some operational level considerations for you.
You talk about her social media. What about her IRL social life? Does she hang out with Trump Derangement Syndrome sufferers? Does she work in a job that is heavily PMC captured? You could very well be the most important single person in her life, but the collective importance of the 20 other people she spends most of her time with outweighs you. Social pressure is as real a force as gravity except for people who have committed to truly Outsider status. And those people often come with their own pathologies that make them difficult to build a relationship with.
If you're ever worried about your relationship status with your significant other, you've probably already lost. If you're married it's a little different. A lot of folks will limp it out until the kids are out of the house. Many won't. You should look back to see when you started worrying about anything besides being the best possible partner you could be. Once it gets externalized ("was she actually angry about x? Did she not like friend y? Can I convince her to z") you've entered a bargaining based transactional relationship with an account balance. Account balances can go up to infinity, which means they're never "full." They can also drop to the negative for long stretches and have you paying out interest only payments.
On the bright side, your ethical qualms about lying are excellent. No matter what happens in the rest of the external world, it's always 100% within your own power to maintain your honor and integrity. You'll done fine.
But if that’s true, I’m still saying no to this one. It cannot work if you’re going to be in her life socially. Sooner or later you will be at a party or something and the topic will come up. Probably not Trump specifically, but some future iteration of the same. And if she feels the need to be proactively politically correct online, she’s not going to allow you to be yourself in the presence of her friends no matter what her IRL friends think. If she’s doing it for a career move, you’re going to either have to act the part or at least bite your tongue whenever politics comes up, or frankly most social issues. And I don’t see tha5 working long term
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