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When someone shows you who they are (typically in times of serious stress for them), you should believe them. I don't think it's a good idea to carry on a relationship with a person who hates who you are.
Hmm. I would argue that "Who I voted for that time" is considerably different from "Who I Am."
Anything you do is part of you in that "not doing x" isn't part of you.
I did drag for a Halloween costume once. I wouldn't say that makes me a drag queen or a cross dresser.
But it does mean I'm not the kind of guy who would never do that. Such a person exists, a guy who would never put on a skirt and makeup, and we are different.
In the same way, voting for Trump "that time" doesn't define your whole personality. But it does mean you aren't a person who would never vote for Trump, which is a piece of information about you.
We are in agreement.
Come on dude, I expect better from you.
Sorry to disappoint. Mine was not an attempt at comeback, simply a suspicion that we actually do agree in the essentials and that any point of argument isn't really worth the candle for either of us.
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clearly not to the girlfriend, who he is terrified will find out he is the sort of person who would vote for Donald Trump that time
it's part of you, you may not like how some people interpret that, but you are the sort of person who does that thing
it is at least part of "who you are"
Sure, part of, yes. But disagreeing with your choice for president needn't be "hating who you are." That's the kind of thing that reasonable people really need to get past--it's buying into a pop culture meme way of looking at the world, a tacit acceptance of the premise that vibes are some existential manifestation of selfhood.
I'm sure for many here it is outrageous to suggest that core principles can be shared by people on both sides of the political aisle, but I certainly believe this to be true.
it needn't be and yet it is in this described scenario; if you genuinely fear your spouse or close friend would end that relationship if they discovered you voted for a person for president which half of Americans also voted for, then it isn't OP or ME who is claiming otherwise, it's the person who is going to end relationships over it thus showing you the type of person she is
a person who does this isn't a reasonable person
brother wars consist of two sides of a family who agree on quite a lot of core principles and yet they fight and kill each other because of the stuff they disagree on
to be honest, I doubt you will find a single user here who believes "people on both sides of the political aisle" cannot share some core principles.
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