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Which conservatives, the classical liberals or the evangelicals?
Which homosexuality, the one that acts like any normal couple except same-sex, or the hyper-effeminate/5000 orgies a night type?
I agree with this, but not for the reasons you think; I think that there are different challenges for relationships that are built on the ancient exclusive prostitution agreement between a man and his wife (and the drives and personality types that make people prefer this arrangement), and those that are not for other reasons. Confusing the two on purpose because “the prostitution is the telos of a relationship” is itself a destructive and intellectually lazy thing; traditionalists and progressives do it because it’s psychological isolation from an infohazard.
I wouldn’t benefit from constantly being reminded that some people have more secure relationships either- that's kind of why marrying a virgin is really important to most guys, as a signal that the prostitute sees the sex work as work to be done (and her body as an asset), not as pleasurable in and of itself, which from an evolutionary biology standpoint is obviously as disordered as homosexuality is.
No it’s not, like even trivially most guys expect to have sex with their wives before marriage, and don’t seriously expect she never had sex with someone else? I have old fashioned views about sex and gender but I recognize that I’m in the minority.
What? Most guys want their wives to desire and enjoy sex with them.
Judging by the commentariat here, this is the overwhelming preference; that it isn't expressed in polite company doesn't make it untrue.
It’s the preference but clearly not the reality, both for the majority of married men here and in general. Men also “prefer” tall, hourglass blondes with huge tits and perfect faces and women “prefer” 6’5 billionaire bad boys with sexy voices, that isn’t the destiny of most people.
But if it is the preference, then naturally men will put a higher SMV on women who haven't done that. (This is simply describing an emergent system property; I'm not making a moral judgment about those things or otherwise Slootposting.)
As I’ve argued, though, high status men seem to marry whores all the time.
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