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Culture War Roundup for the week of October 14, 2024

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There have already been some studies on what income is required to ‘make up for’ being a very short man. I don’t know that I believe them, necessarily, but I think they exist.

I think it’s best to model them differently. For women, wealth could make some difference at the margins but not a huge amount; eg. when Adele was fat her ex husband was a schlubby looking also-chubby bearded white guy. Fat female celebrities don’t generally have hot husbands, although exceptions presumably exist. For men, wealth can make a lot of difference, but even so, there are comparatively poor bartenders, line cooks, sound engineers, high school drama teachers and so on who are more successful with more attractive women than many super rich men.

Among the PMC (the truly rich are more heterogenous as a class) assortative mating is now so strong that it largely filters looks-based matching to an intra-class level. The ugly junior banker will marry the ugly junior banker or corporate lawyer or doctor or whatever of the opposite sex. The hot one will do the equivalent. Neither will marry particularly up or down.

high school drama teachers

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Among the PMC (the truly rich are more heterogenous as a class) assortive mating is now so strong that it largely filters looks-based matching to an intra-class level.

According to Gregory Clark, it's always been thus. He claims that in the anglosphere, mating has been assortative on socioeconomic status at a correlation of approximately 0.8 for centuries.