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Note that if you substituted food for any other substance or activity (alcohol, heroin, tobacco, masturbating to pornography) your reasoning would sound preposterous. It's very easy to tell yourself stories about how "this is just the way I am, so it's cruel to expect me to change". Probably every human defense mechanism is some variant upon this.
No, actually, I think I that's correct? In my experience, people who are addicted to alcohol or smoking or porn almost never stop, and the best defense is to avoid become addicted in the first place by not even trying the addictive habit in the first place (trivial for heroin and tobacco, harder for alcohol and porn, impossible for food).
Like, if you expect an alcoholic or drug addict or a masturbator to give up their vices, you are going to have a bad time; very few do. You are much better off deciding if you are willing to accept that person addiction and all or if you would rather cut them off from your life. Same for expecting a fat person to lose weight. Ignoring morality/desert, it requires a nearly superhuman level of willpower that the vast majority of people empirically do not have.
I find your motivated defeatism rather depressing. "Woe is me - through no fault of my own I was born with a metabolic set point incompatible with maintaining a healthy BMI AND developed an addiction to shitty fast food AND was born without the willpower necessary to overcome said addiction. Nothing I can do to change my lifestyle for the better, I just have to resign myself to my fate."
Look, I'm not going to claim that there's no hereditary component to willpower and everyone can do anything they choose to if they put their mind to it. But by your account, it doesn't sound like you've put a humongous effort into changing your lifestyle and finally decided it's not possible for you personally. Not "tried and found wanting" but "found difficult and left untried", as G.K. Chesterton would say.
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