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Really? Bets were made and stakes were put on the table? I don't remember this. People throw "Want to make a bet on it?" a lot, but I don't recall anyone ever trying to set up a formal wager.
I wish she were still around to react to being called "that one catholic girl."
I don't know which specific ban you are talking about, but her repeated bans were never because she was saying things mods disagreed with or against someone who enjoyed the mods' favor, but because she had a problem saying things without being an antagonistic and personally insulting about it.
Who? Name names and post links.
I wish she were still around too, but I feel, if you observe this comment of yours carefully, you'll realize that if she were around her resultant comment would probably again get her a mod warning, or worse. This is just my observation.
Probably. That was the problem. She could be a good contributor, but she could not control her temper and she thought being offended was a license to shit on people.
Many such cases.
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Ah, going through my post history?
Nope, happened to see this belatedly while going through the mod queue.
So, are you going to actually back up anything you claimed?
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