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Small-Scale Question Sunday for August 25, 2024

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You could also say this about autists and normies. Autists leaning towards more how things are and the normies obsessed with how things are supposed to be. Although I will admit this one is a reach.

It's the opposite, in my experience. Normies just deal with what is, and autists are very concerned with the way things ought to be.

Normies deal with what is, but get very upset if you accurately describe them as they are, instead of how they ought to be. Autists can deal with things as they are, as long they're labelled correctly, it's the dissonance between the actual state and the description that drives them nuts.

This seems to hit the nail on the head.

I wonder if this clash plays any sort of key role in autists often falling out of working life and social circles.

I feel like polite social life often requires a certain amount of lying. Not only to others, but even to yourself. It helps ease the tension in all sorts of awkward situations, if we can all just fib a little and pretend things don't exist. Autists really struggle with that. (And I say that as someone who is a bit autistic and a terrible liar)