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Edit - edited the FR, it is linked for those who want to read the field report.
I went to a nightclub for the first time last saturday and had a blast. I made out with/danced/ felt four different girls and three of them complied with less than 2 minutes of me asking them to do it.
I was just gonna see my date for coffee at this hipster coffee place, she got late so I talked to two other girls and got her number as well.
Later went to that nightclub place and had fun. I got blocked by 2 of the 4 girls who did touch me but that is fine.
Main takeway is that I am now in a state of abundance, as in I have tasted it myself and will never be desperate for girls. Earlier I would just cry over getting blocked but now I do not care as I know I will find better and many many many more of them later so focusing on careermaxxing for remote ML or Quant jobs is the right path as I will miss out on the club here but will be able to do this in posh areas in the capital later.
Once you taste it, you are different, I have changed as a person completely and hope you all experience this.
P.S. The field report is linked and is on my profile. The field report contains the details of the interactions so please if you get the time, do read them and let me know what you feel. https://old.reddit.com/user/practical_romantic/comments/xwf3y7/fr_first_night_at_a_club_and_some_daygame/
Religiosity, Abundance and internal motivation have made my life much better. Do read and provide feedback. Action beats everything, just being there in field helped me grow up and have more fun than all of the reading ever did. Overall quite fun, something changed inside me, a switch was flipped, I know that I can get all girls and hence do not need to worry about them now at all since I have better things to do.
Agree with @fruck. Learning to date is an important skill but life has much more to offer. If you keep seeing things through a manosphere/PUA lens you will miss out.
PUA and manosphere are very different. I do not despise women or see them as different beings nor do I use any strategies to get them. Believing that RSD taught this stuff is akin to believing the horrible untrue things most believe about anything not lefty politically.
I just go out, have fun and do my best to leave them better than I found them and just write about it so that I can get better.
You don’t have to hate or despise women to not treat them instrumentally, in fact it’s easier to manipulate people if you don’t give a shit about them.
I’m in the motte so I definitely don’t demonize anything to the right, but it is difficult to impossible to have meaningful and long lasting relationships with men or women if you detach yourself from people emotionally. You can learn to socialize and practice get better etc in a healthier way. If you know about frame, the idea is to have a healthier mental frame while still doing the same practice.
I do not want to have emotional feelings for a girl ever again. The only time I can like one and not get fucked over is when i can walk away. I still feel bad about my oneitis and would never want to go though that ever again.
Of course it's your choice, but from my experience being in a loving relationship is one of the greatest things about life. Even redpill folks talk a lot about LTRs. Something to think about.
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Ok dude, now you have tasted it, drop the pua language. That shit is just a way of detaching yourself from the reality of the moment so you can avoid the psychological pain you expect from rejection. But you have changed, and you know now how little that matters, so please go back to treating them like fellow human beings. Because it gets harder to drop the longer you do it, and if you do it too long it will just alienate and isolate you from everyone around you until those are the only interactions you ever have.
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I somehow feel as if this is in the wrong place.
yeah, i will not post any field reports here later on. thanks for the reminder.
I will post them on another place and link them back.
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