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Outside of the cynical takes you'll get by asking this online, there's four options that seem to be likely.
Girls in their prime are often woefully ignorant of the assymetry in the dating market and she doesn't understand (or care, if you want to be cynical) how much more meaningful the attention she gave you was to you than it was to her. To her it was playful, and maybe an option she could explore later if other plans fall through, no harm done.
She was interested but your message came off too desperate. Many such cases.
She's interested but just hasn't come around to answer you. Of course, if she was really completely captivated she assuredly wouldn't forget or deprioritize answering you, but again girls in their prime are often unaware of the assymetry and to her an interesting prospect that's interested in her is a regular occurence so it doesn't feel as urgent to grasp it.
She's playing games/trying "tactics". Of course average guys know the only tactic that women need to maximize getting our attention is "just be nice to us", but the advice women get from peers and media is just as disfunctional as the one men get.
Just because I'm a pedant, I believe it's asymmetry, though your spelling is much more entertaining.
Yeah, english's not my first language and there's some words like that where the right spelling just doesn't seem to stick.
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