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Wellness Wednesday for July 10, 2024

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My dearest wife

I opened my eyes on the last day.

It was the only thing that came to mind.

You were awake before me, as usual.

Rolled to my left and saw the same thing

I've seen for a third of my life.

The back of your head, back-lit by your phone.

I shifted closer, draped my arm over yours,

and kissed your shoulder.

You grumbled something and shrugged the arm off.

So I lay there, three inches away,

and tried not to shake while I cried.

In a few minutes, our lives are going to change.

I'm never going to walk down this hallway again,

use this bathroom, or type on this computer.

You went down to make tea and I'm writing.

When the drinks are done, we need to talk.

The papers are filed, the process server will be along.

This is not my home any more.

Trying to learn something from this. Should my wife and I not be both doomscrolling independently of one another in bed?

Don't shrug her hand away might be the main takeaway.

In order to properly format lines in a poetic stanza, type two spaces at the end of each line, and don't type an extra carriage return between the lines. Use the "view source" button to compare these two examples:

'Twas brillig; and the slithy toves
Did gyre and gimble in the wabe:
All mimsy were the borogoves,
And the mome raths outgrabe.

'Twas brillig; and the slithy toves

Did gyre and gimble in the wabe:

All mimsy were the borogoves,

And the mome raths outgrabe.

- Hey guys, here's a poem I wrote about how devastated I am because my marriage is falling apart.

- Here's how you can improve the formatting!

I love you guys, please never change.

Also, hang in there, @JTarrou.

Sorry to hear it. How long have you two been unhappy?

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