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PaperclipPerfector  5mo ago (text post)   4001 thread views

Small-Scale Question Sunday for June 23, 2024

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As others have said, I block when the posts of the person in general annoy the shit out of me and make me want to respond in a hostile fashion to no real purpose. Rather than go there, I just block them, problem solved. I expect I've been blocked aplenty for various reasons. Anyway blocking doesn't really signal, since the user never knows you've blocked them unless they are DMing you or subtweeting you or whatever and you just don't respond, and even then they may just think you're taking that dark road and ignoring them.

I can easily imagine blocking the hell out of dozens of people if I were a female. The amount of thirsty horndogs online who figure Why not when considering whether to message a woman probably outnumbers the grains of sand on the beach.

Edit: I do not currently block anyone here. I just double-checked.

Anyway blocking doesn't really signal, since the user never knows you've blocked them

Trust me, you are not blocked by anyone, else you would know that the motte sends you a large beaming red notification about the user who blocked you.

What's the rationale in that choice?

If it's a holdover from the rdrama website code (which Zorba took and repurposed for our site iirc), probably just because it would troll the blocked user.

I can easily imagine blocking the hell out of dozens of people if I were a female. The amount of thirsty horndogs online who figure Why not when considering whether to message a woman probably outnumbers the grains of sand on the beach.

I doubt the Motte, specifically, suffers from this problem. It does suffer from some posters with a very antagonistic and negative interpretation of women as a class, more lately than in the past as far as I can tell.

Women and Jews really get it here, and yet one of our most prolific and well-loved posters is a Jewish woman.

It does suffer from some posters with a very antagonistic and negative interpretation of women as a class, more lately than in the past

It's hard to convey "hate the sin, love the sinner" (or "hate the behavior that is correlated with group membership, love the individual") through text.

And being that I'm not writing in [something akin to] Old Entish, where you actually can cut an accurate line between the individual and the group if you write the entire history of humanity through the initial conditions of reality and all of the grievances that made words mean what they mean before saying a single word (and sure, I could do that but I have other things to do and only a 500,000 character limit; usernames and reputations should be enough for this but they don't work that way in practice as they're not discoverable even to existing users let alone new ones) I'm limited to "women in aggregate do work this way, and that has led to negative consequences X and Y, and costed W lives and destroyed $Z wealth", despite in my personal life being blessed enough to not have to meaningfully interact with a single woman who works that way.

Ultimately, the whole conversation (and every time it comes up) feels like I'm describing marriage counseling proceedings between the statistically average man and the statistically average woman. There's another poster that uses this language between Blue and Red areas of the US but I think it's a far larger problem than that; I think said average woman hates said average man (which is how woman secures resources and power over man), said average man hates the external enemy [either nature or human] (which is how man secures resources and power over women), but there is no external enemy any more (freedom from need has been largely achieved in the West) so only said average woman is able to leverage that hatred effectively (which is why she teaches man to hate himself, and then chooses the bear anyway). That's going to continue unchecked, and the household will be unable to prevent getting wrecked as a consequence, and nobody's going to learn a damn thing about how to prevent that in the future.

I agree on both counts. I have been tempted to counter some of these occasions (e.g. when it is suggested, to upvotes, that the western world go full Afghanistan and deny women education because reasons) but I either have considered it pointless to engage, been too incredulous to respond, or assumed one of the women here would take up the banner (though of course they may disengage for similar reasons).

As has been pointed out may times by myself, Scotty and a half dozen or more others in the this space, a forum or online gathering spot that doesn't explicitly ban witches will eventually be filled only with witches, that is what we are watching slowly happen. No offense to my current and future online wiccan brothers and sisters, it will still be fun while it lasts.

Anyway blocking doesn't really signal, since the user never knows you've blocked them

motte interface prominently shows that someone blocked you, on every single of their posts

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