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Yes, my first girlfriend, who I met in my final year of highschool, was a lawyer who scored in the 99.75th percentile on standardised testing. I wasn't bothered by her being smarter than me at all. The main problem was her addiction to having arguments and IRL trolling more than anything else.
Wait, am I reading this wrong or were you a senior in high school while she was a fully barred lawyer implying that she was at least 23 or 24?
My fuckin' man out here.
She became fully barred when we were dating, but she had already graduated with her degree and was working in the field when we met (on 4chan).
You met a woman on 4chan? I’m curious as to how y’all navigated the tits or gtfo phase of the relationship.
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On the one hand, to paraphrase Larry David talking about Asia Argento, they should name the high school after you.
On the other, this is so profoundly unusual that it didn't tell us much about much.
This place should be renamed to The FirmWeird.
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interestingly, there appears to be no age limit for the bar exam. So there could be a doogie howser situation where a teenager becomes a lawyer.
...but I assume he just meant that she became a lawyer later.
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I assume the meeting happened first and the lawyering happened later?
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