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SubstantialFrivolity
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1mo ago
The real test is whether you want to stay together despite all the rough spots. When it's obvious to you that what you're getting out of the relationship vastly exceeds the blemishes.
I am reminded of this line from The Wise Man's Fear:
"Anyone can love a thing because. That's as easy as putting a penny in your pocket. But to love something despite. To know the flaws and love them too. That is rare and pure and perfect."
I loved this line when I read it, because I think it nicely encapsulates what marriage needs to have. You need to love someone, warts and all, or it simply isn't gonna work.
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2mo ago
That's really interesting. Good on the MvC2 community for not letting the fun die from the game!
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2mo ago
Why do people find mental retardation repulsive? It's been my experience that generally, conditions like Down's Syndrome, autism, etc produce an instinctive "ick" reaction in other people. To the credit of most people, they do their best to cover it up and treat the afflicted individuals kindly - but it doesn't come naturally to them to do so.
Given that this seems (in my experience) to be fairly widespread, it seems to be a reaction that is pretty ingrained in human nature. So what might be the cause of this tendency?
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2mo ago
Sometimes perfectly optimized play is just the enemy of fun.
In fact, I would argue that perfectly optimized play is almost always the enemy of fun. Given the opportunity, gamers frequently choose to optimize the fun right out of a game.
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2mo ago
That sounds awful, and I say this as someone who was born in 85.
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2mo ago
For my personal use, I use the GMMK. Unfortunately Glorious caught the stupid and stopped selling full size keyboards, so you would have to get one secondhand. For work I use a Keychron K10, which is also pretty good. I prefer brown switches myself, but the GMMK is customizable and I believe the K10 is too.
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2mo ago
Ah, I believe you're right that it was around that time. Thanks for re-unbanning him.
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2mo ago
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2mo ago
I want to hear about how you broke up a guild by banging the main healer. But perhaps that's my ex-WoW addict self talking.
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2mo ago
There was a user here, SkookumTree, who used to post quite frequently about how his prospects with women were so bad that the only woman who would have him was a literal meth addict, or a 500 pound woman. At some point, he got it in his head that what would increase his chances with women was to have risked his life in some way, as apparently women can tell and are attracted to a man who has risked his life. So he kept talking about how he was going to go on a solo trek through the Alaskan wilderness, called the Hock. He was firmly convinced that if he just did this One Weird Trick (TM), he would finally be able to score dates or whatever.
Ultimately he got banned because he kept posting about it so much. I'm talking at least once a week in the Wellness Wednesday thread, and frequently more often than that. It got really obnoxious, especially because he kept arguing against people trying to give him advice on how to improve his game (and it probably goes without saying but it was all better advice than his plan). Basically he got banned until he went on the Hock, with the hope that he would finally stop beating that dead horse. But he hasn't been back around since he got banned, even though he has since been unbanned.
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2mo ago
I can't say I've ever met any libertarians who were against age of consent. The entire philosophy is based around respecting what consenting adults do. They're fine with restricting what children do.
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2mo ago
I've never understood OLD. If the objective is dating a real person in real life ... go do that.
Can't speak for anyone else, but for me there were two draws.
- I simply stopped meeting people after college, except through work (and the tech business is 99% men so that wasn't much help).
- When I had tried to date people I met IRL, I ran into the problem where by the time I got to know someone enough to be attracted to her, she was perfectly content being friends. Ran into it every single time I would ask a girl out. With online dating, at least it sets the tone up front that one is trying to have a romantic relationship, not platonic.
And honestly, it worked well enough for me! I'm pretty sure I would never have met my wife if not for OLD. So I'm glad I gave it a go.
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2mo ago
Most people's lives just get worse and worse as they get older...
That's definitely not true. It's more that you exchange one set of pleasures for another as you get older. Whether that is as fulfilling as before is more up to the individual than anything else. For example, I'm just about 40 now. Compared to when I was 20, I:
- Make almost 5x as much money (not inflation adjusted to be fair but still significant)
- Own a house
- Got a girlfriend, married her
- Have nephews who are an incredible bright spot in my life
- Finished my degree (note that I don't mean I graduated at 22, I mean I flunked out of college and finished later)
- Am in worse shape physically
- Don't have as much free time as I used to (but still have a fair bit cause I don't have kids)
- No longer can enjoy my friends' company as easily as I could when we were all in school together
There are both good and bad things in my life since then. But I think they balance each other out. My life may not be better than it was 20 years ago, but it isn't worse either.
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2mo ago
‘How many goals do you use for a pickup basketball game?’- red tribers play on half a court, blue tribers play on a full one.
Wait what? I would've said you just use whatever you have to hand. Sometimes that's a half court, sometimes full. Why would this have a tribal slant to it?
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2mo ago
And I don't get what you mean by "my philosophy".
It's a quote from Hamlet.
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2mo ago
Second this. I think that a quiet, peaceful life is highly underrated. I also enjoy reading about everyday life in another country, as I'll almost certainly never experience it. I might visit Japan, but it's quite unlikely that I would ever live there for an extended period of time and settle into everyday life (nor in any other country, for that matter). So it is a delight to read about even if it seems boring to @George_E_Hale .
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2mo ago
It's a great dig, but I wonder if it actually sways anyone. I have a hard time imagining that people are so foolish as to think that politicians are not in it for themselves by and large.
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2mo ago
I'm also not voting. I despise D and R candidates, and the 2016 election taught me that literally nothing will convince the voters in this country to consider voting for anyone else. So I'm done voting for President. I'll probably still vote for local offices and such.
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2mo ago
Men have to have a good career to have a family, otoh.
Oh, definitely not. There are all kinds of men who don't have good careers - some don't even have jobs - who still have families. And I don't mean they fathered kids they abandoned, I mean that they are actually around as part of the family.
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2mo ago
It is obvious to young women(or anyone else) who are around mothers and identify with mothers that mothers like and enjoy being mothers and consider the trade offs worth it.
I have been around plenty of mothers in my day. That is not at all obvious to me. So no, I don't agree with your argument that its obvious and that our culture is just suppressing that.
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2mo ago
Convincing young people and especially women that the trade offs aren’t worth it is itself the result of a propaganda campaign...
You don't need any such campaign to convince people the trade offs aren't worth it. It's blatantly obvious that parenting is full of unpleasantness, and not at all obvious that there's any upside. If anything, you need a propaganda campaign to convince young people "no really, you'll be glad you had children in the end".
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2mo ago
the same argument that lay Protestants invoke against depictions of the cross-with-corpus, i.e. the crucifix.
As an aside, I have always felt that this entire point of contention between Catholic and Protestant Christians is a huge missing of the point on both sides. At least, the people waging the Christian culture war miss the point - most Christians I've known are content to live and let live. Both the crucifix and the empty cross are good symbols for different reasons. The former reminds us of Jesus' suffering, the latter reminds us that he is alive even after all that. You need both of those things in Christianity! I think there's nothing wrong with a particular sect deciding that they want to emphasize one or the other, as they are both equally worthy of symbols.
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2mo ago
Well said. Ceterum censeo Twitter esse delendam.
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2mo ago
Considering I personally know the people I'm in rooms with, and I know for a fact they are seeing my messages... that isn't true. Maybe in some cases, but not in my case.
It's possible, since Christopher Tolkien died. It's not clear to me that whoever manages the estate now (his children, I guess) will be as protective of the legacy as he was. I think it's kinda hard to adapt because there isn't a real character through-line, but Hollywood might invent something there.
That said I have no interest in seeing it happen. LOTR was already the best case scenario we're likely to see, and I thought the movies had egregious problems as adaptations of Tolkien (though they were great movies on their own merits). The Hobbit movies were straight up bad movies (let alone being good adaptations), and from everything I've read about Rings of Power it's laughably bad. I doubt that a Silmarillion adaptation would fare better, and as it's my favorite book of all time I have no real desire to watch that train wreck.
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