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Small-Scale Question Sunday for March 24, 2024

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I like the Dan Savage heuristic for breakups: one month of mourning for every year of the relationship (I'd round up the year, so if you're at 8 months just call it a year). If you're feeling down, that's a good rule of thumb for when you should be forcing yourself to put down the booze and get back on the horse. If you're feeling up-and-excited, it's a good rule of thumb for the time period during which you should question your own judgment on getting into anything new. Rebounds are a bitch, don't get caught up in something that isn't good for you.

It's been a year and a half now. Like, I am sad it didn't work out, but much of the pain and devastation I'm used to from previous breakups was frontloaded, used up in all our endless battles over the pettiest bullshit.

I'm mostly numb. I only shed enough tears to wet a toothbrush.

Two months is far too long to mourn. I have exams. Work, that frowns strongly on me turning up with a hangover. And I suspect my parents would be rather miffed if I spent two months in a drunken haze.

Not even at my worst did I feel tempted to hit the bottle that hard, and my liver thanks me.

Sure, don't get drunk every day and fail out of your job regardless. But also don't be surprised, despite your perception of have pre-grieved, if you aren't actually ready to date for two months. Or if you generally aren't in a great mood.

I appreciate the advice. Sadly I haven't been in a good mood for the past 10 years, so that isn't anything new haha. Well, not at a stretch at least.