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PaperclipPerfector  8mo ago (text post)   2569 thread views

Wellness Wednesday for February 28, 2024

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I'm already addicted to Nicotine. Badly. I take maybe 100 hits of my vape daily.

I don't have issues with doing good things. My room is spotless, I lift, run and work 10-12 hours a day. But I do have a problem with doing bad things. I vape, masturbate, and waste time on the computer much more than I'd like. I'd like to make the list of bad things shorter before I make the list of good things longer (even though I will eventually get back to this).

Any idea how I can perhaps work in a negative reinforcement habit?

If said masturbation is accompanied by porn usage, I've had great results by cutting porn out. YMMV but masturbation generally leaves me feeling lethargic, so no porn = less masturbation = more energy. Not to say I haven't found plenty of other ways to waste time at the PC.

If you vape at or around your computer it's probably reinforcing the browsing and masturbation, I've spent a third as much time online since I started this and now I can't remember how I was able to spend all day scrolling. My best suggestion would be to avoid any nicotine during the things you're trying to avoid, and find better or neutral behaviors to replace them with so you can still vape. I'm not sure your specific problem with masturbation but I wouldn't be surprised if the gooning phenomenon were directly correlated with vaping.

TMI section: One part of this reinforcement I didn't mention is that along with the housework, I've started taking a hit right before and as I orgasm, but at no other point during masturbation.1 I used to like edging and opening tabs for hours but this has made me eager to finish quickly, saving me time and dramatically improving my sexual stamina. I'm also aroused more often and have more sexual fantasies while I'm out and about, which I consider healthy and preferable but might not be a goal of yours.

1 this is part of my longstanding efforts to give myself a sex addiction

I'm not sure your specific problem with masturbation but I wouldn't be surprised if the gooning phenomenon were directly correlated with vaping.

What is the gooning phenomenon? I learned of this term probably within the past couple years, and I just thought it was just zoomer slang for masturbating a lot, which men have been doing since the invention of hands. Is it just that people are now forming an identity around this as a hobby?

My whole-language-method understanding of the term as it's used on the imageboards is that it denotes masturbating to material in the broad-spectrum information overload hyperstimulus style that certain zoomer subcultures are into.

(Also another instance of C(C)ooC being a sound pattern largely reserved for slurs and base behaviours in English)

Is it just that people are now forming an identity around this as a hobby?

If you are having trouble filling out the "Other Interests" section of your resume...

Where is your partner in all of this?

I'm single.

Having a partner will stop you from blowing big clouds. Because A. It looks trashy and no decent woman or man would stand for it. B. You won't feel the need to fill those empty moments with anything but clever banter!

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