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PaperclipPerfector  10mo ago (text post)   3311 thread views

Friday Fun Thread for January 26, 2024

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This is great advice.

Finding and maintaining friendships has to be a full time priority (and keep a strong preference for IRL friends over virtual friends).

I know this is an age old question. But where do you find friends? If you feel comfortable, can you tell me where you, specifically, found friends? I've got some great friends online, but in real life, not too many pickings; I don't do much other than work and go home and practice a hobby or two, though it helps that I am friends with my boss and my family.

But where do you find friends?

Anywhere and everywhere. If you have an excuse to talk with someone its a potential avenue of friendship.

College, work, rec sports, neighbors, friends of friends, non-profit work, etc.

Some cheat codes:

  1. Try and just be friends with at least one super social person, and then piggyback off their many friendships. I'm currently lucky to have a set of super social next door neighbors. We've met quite a few other people through them.
  2. Volunteer to help an organization's recruitment. Its painful if you are an introvert. But it gives you an active excuse to be friendly and approach people. As a guy this matters, because it removes some creep factor.
  3. Rec sports are great, especially team ones. Nothing builds to easy social interactions faster than some physical competition or team work with others.

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