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Let's say your friend is really bad at managing his money. If he misses his next loan payment, they will repossess his car, and no one is willing to help him out. He comes to you and begs for money, saying you're his only hope. You tell him that you're going to help if he gives you a blowjob for each payment.
Did you threaten him? Did you force him to take all these APR 32% loans? Is he capable of making his own decisions? Would your behavior be considered generally objectionable behavior?
What if I told him to declare bankruptcy, and he countered with the offer to suck my dick? I was going to get a hooker anyway, so the money might as well go to my dear friend. I think he's a stupid and sick man, but yeah it's his decision and i owe him at least my patronage.
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That's still soliciting prostitution, not rape. And not at all a parallel for anything we've been discussing, unless the "women are a meme" meme is true.
Except that I said in my initial post that it's not necessarily rape, just that it's (at least) unethical and thus generally objectionable behavior. In many countries what @orthoxerox describes is entirely and explicitly legal, but most people would still think you were a scumbag for demanding your friend have sex with you in exchange for lending them some money.
Saying it's not necessary rape but it's some generally objectionable thing, which then justifies the men involved being treated generally as if it were rape, is false nuance.
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