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Wellness Wednesday for January 17, 2024

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I had decent dating success in graduate school

You're in NYC, the options are practically endless. (from fellow late 20s south Asian male who used to be in NYC). Climbing and mixed-gender sports are the easiest places to get started. If you were socially well adjusted enough to get laid in school and be a TA, then you'll be alright.

all Match Group apps (Tinder, Bumble, etc.)

Bumble is not owned by the match group

Circumvent the Ban

Also, yes. Circumvent the ban. If you can't afford a new dual sim phone, then you can't afford to date in NYC. Use your middle name or change the spelling. The wifi thing sounds like a good idea. Similarly, if you don't have enough new photos, then you need to be going out more. Dating apps won't help here. See, even if you get dates, you need to be interesting enough to hold their attention. If your life is boring enough that you can't come up with good photos for hinge within 3 months, then you would have gotten ghost with or without the ban.

Unfortunately, I was stupid enough to do the "recommended" facial verification on my old profile

What's the worst they can do ? Ban you again ?

I've been playing around with some models for generating photos based on Stable Diffusion and I've managed to generate some fairly realistic pics of me,

The extent to which a man will go to stay inside.

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