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My parents homeschooled several of my siblings (but not me). My sisters homeschool their children. It's all mostly unschooling. And the kids /adult so far have developed completely comparably with (occasional knowledge gaps here and there). My son is in school, but can do mathematical laps around his cousins a few years older than him. He didn't learn that in school, he's just precocious mathematically. I honestly think schooling mostly doesn't have a large variance on the average in terms of well-rounded development. It can have differences in social development and on the margins of any specific subject. The more you focus on outcomes based on subject matter, or social grease, the more I think schooling will have an observable statistical effect. The more you look at broad variance of human development, the less, imho
That seems likely.
I thought I was bad at math until my mid-twenties, because I hadn't ever taken a decent math class, and it's plausible I wouldn't have gone int a more math/science based field if I had taken some good algebra and trig classes earlier (but ultimately been in the same social class, with a similar income). Meanwhile, I had to learn a lot of social norms in college that I could have learned in Jr High (but maybe more painfully?).
I still expect to be able to teach my children my own area of expertise just fine on weekends and summers if they're interested in learning.
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