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Yeah man, what's a stranger who walks in going to do? Stand and judge your form? What would you do if you walked in on that? Personally I'd avert my eyes and pretend not to notice, and that's what everyone else does too.
I mean, you could always jam the door to the bathroom shut if it's that big of a deal to you (I can't sing the praises of the sink over the toilet enough, it's just a vastly superior place to have sex) but in my experience that would likely kill your partner's enthusiasm - women who want to have sex in bathrooms are usually getting off on the exhibitionism.
I dated one girl who wanted to have sex in the stairwell to the car park of her corporate office. At fucking lunch time! Now that's insanity, but she almost broke up with me when I refused (nightclub sex became our compromise). It's not something society talks about much, but women's sex drives can short circuit their critical thinking too, and when it does the sex is amazing.
Actually I think that's where the idea of crazy chicks being dynamite in bed comes from - some moonbat with 5 cats and 70 'babies' made out of furballs and googly eyes isn't going to be amazing in bed. But a woman who has found a sexual stimulant which drives her crazy will be crazy good in bed, unlike a man who will just be crazy fast.
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