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I can't answer that question. Because I don't know what evidence will cause me to change my opinion until I see the evidence. That's not how people work.If you have evidence of whatever your argument is (which I am still unclear on) then simply provide it. Stop trying to create gotchas or whatever. That's why I am trying to work out where our disagreement is, because you haven't actually said at what step you think I am wrong.
Ok, so the next step up is I think should they want to. So would you contend that someone who tracked someone down physically after they were doxxed is less likely to want to hurt a woman than a man then? And then I suppose the next step up after that (just because this will take all day otherwise!) is if you think it is more likely that someone will attempt to physically find a woman who has been doxxed or a man?
You should be able to tell what logical conditions need to apply for your argument to be true, and concede the argument was false if one of them is not fulfilled, otherwise we are not having an honest conversation.
Yes, yes, yes. I'm pretty sure generally men are less likely to inflict harm on women, than on other men.
This is probably the crux of our disagreement then. I would agree that when it comes to violence generally you are correct. But the kind of situation where a stranger is sought out is far outside the normal levels of impulsive or standard criminal violence that is most male on male violence. But my experience working with the police in and around stalkers, is that while both men and women perform tracking style behaviours at roughly equal numbers, the kinds of actions they then carry out are very different (due to gendered differences) and male stalkers who track down a female are more likely to escalate to physical (and sexual) violence with the victim. There is a gendered difference in how and why men and women track down strangers and the kind of things they do once in that position. Though most in my experience watch rather than interact which is a second reason why the absolute risk of doxxing is low. This plus the fact that women are physically weaker and thus at greater risk once it comes to an altercation (where the man wants to harm them) is where my position comes from, all else being equal.
In other words if I have a choice of whether someone is going to fixate on me or my wife, I'd rather it were me, as I stand a much better chance of fighting off an assailant if it comes to that (Z), and I think it's much less likely that they would physically come to find me (Y), and if they did the chances of them trying to attempt a physical confrontation of any kind would be lower (X). For X I think that if they did engage in a physical confrontation (whether with me or my wife) given the other steps they have already passed through they are likely to be willing to do harm, but as I know that is a bone of contention for you, I will add that as (W) willingness to try to do harm. And then likelihood that someone online would fixate on me vs my wife in the first place (assuming we both got doxxed) (V).
So to try and work in your terms (though I maintain this is not how people think generally), if you demonstrated that, risk VWXYZ for me is lower than VWXYZ for my wife. (or for any generic male and female), then I should revise my opinion. Currently I would say that I think the woman would be slightly more likely to be targeted in this scenario, that the willingness to do harm may be roughly equal, likelihood of a physical confrontation skews to the woman, likelihood of someone physically travelling to find skews to the woman slightly, and the inability to fight off as effectively skews to the woman very significantly.
In other words while in general it may be true that men are less likely to do violence to a woman, once you are dealing with someone who has fixated enough on a stranger to track them down after being doxxed, travelled to them, then initiated a physical meeting, then got into a physical struggle, I think has demonstrated a unusual set of proclivities which makes them much more likely than normal to do violence to their target no matter who they might be. They aren't independent unrelated variables.
The problem here is that you're alternating between being strategically generic, and strategically specific. You're saying that we shouldn't apply statistics from generic criminal violence to the harm that can result from doxxing, because that is different type of scenario, but at the same time you're saying we should apply statistics from stalking, although it's far from clear to me that showing up to someone because an influence you followed doxxed them is the same type of behavior as stalking typically dealt with by the police.
But this already concedes your original statement is false. Originally you said:
That's not VWXYZ, that's Z and something you completely dropped here - "if we take as granted that doxxing increases the risk of some physical altercation taking place", let's call it A. Z is not controversial, A is at least plausible, so I can grant it. But in the last comment you replaced it with VW. They're not the same thing because A is a statement about an increase from a baseline, while VW are statement about the resulting level of risk, which we then compare between men and women. Doxxing can result in A with VW(men) > VW(women) still being true. XY was not part of your original argument at all, and I do not grant them.
All I'm saying is:
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