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Culture War Roundup for the week of November 27, 2023

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Just look what ideal progressive modern woman should look like: she should be given free contraception at early teen or even pre-teen and get fast tracked into sexual experimentation including with her sexual preference and gender identity. Then she should of course spend her most healthy and fertile years of late teens and early twenties studying in college and slaving as HR representative for some nameless corporation while finding meaning not in family and children but by "doing work" on some activist and ideally feminist projects while popping birth control pills and experimenting with sex of course. Then she can go and have a "career" in her late twenties and thirties because every job is a career and groundbreaking work needs to be done on promoting justice of some kind. She may think about relationship, but her "career" and own "wellbeing" should be a priority. You also have right to pursue "career" as Instagram or OF model, it is just a regular work and possibly doable as a sidejob to being preschool teacher.

I am not a progressive, and I am probably more reactionary than 90% of this forum. But tbh this is a weak man. The ideal progressive life trajectory for women is something like ‘she has access to free contraception starting at puberty, experiments with sex and relationships as she feels is right, goes to college and gets established in a career, meets and marries a male feminist in her late twenties or early thirties, has the number of kids she wants and no more, and can juggle this with a fulfilling high status career without cutting corners on her family goals’.

Now you might say this is obvious fantasy, and except for a few women rich enough to afford full time servants that’s true, but it is what feminists hold up as the ideal even if they can’t get it.

Sure, I can agree also with that characterization. The main point being that relationship and marriage are of secondary importance. It is all about her, and the job of the man is to support the woman in her life path.