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PaperclipPerfector  1yr ago (text post)   4451 thread views

Small-Scale Question Sunday for November 19, 2023

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He should be less concerned with his obsession of being totally undateable, and more concerned with how he is going to function as a medical doctor when he has such a one track delusional mind, autism and awkwardness, and ugliness to the point that no one can stand to look at him (so he claims). Though, he would be far from the first MD with horrendous bedside manner.

how he is going to function as a medical doctor when he has such a one track delusional mind, autism and awkwardness, and ugliness to the point that no one can stand to look at him (so he claims).

I am 20th percentile for physical appearance or so. Not deformed, but decidedly below average. As far as bedside manner: that is...okay. Not bad, although it used to be. It is possible that the attendings I've talked to are now simply blowing smoke up my autistic ass for some reason. I can't think of why they would do so now and wouldn't do so a year or two ago.

A lot of men don't put any effort into their appearance at all, so putting in effort should at least make you average. A lot of men are overweight or obese, are you really claiming they are more physically attractive than you?

Have you gone through the effort of getting a toned body, skincare, hair care, self-grooming, etc? If your face is really physically unattractive even after doing all that, plastic surgery is an option.

I am 20th percentile for physical appearance or so.

I really, really doubt this.

Last time I saw people ask him for pics to substantiate the claim, he changed it to "well, I guess it's more about being awkward".

I actually wonder what "20th percentile" even translates to in terms of physical attractiveness. Like, are we considering all humans, all males, all men, all men of a certain age range, all single men, all single men of a certain age range, or what? In any case 20th percentile isn't so far in one direction as to be unbelievable; I'd wager well over 20% of the posters here are below the 20th percentile in attractiveness - when controlling for age, wealth, nationality and such. But I'd wager that very few are below 20th percentile if you consider all men, since there are so many men out there who are malnourished, sickly, deformed, or unhygienic who are unfortunate to live in very different societies than us. If SkookumTree is closer to the former 20th percentile than the latter, it's both believable and also a situation that's nowhere near as hopeless as he's making it out to be. If it's closer to the latter, that's definitely worth doubting.

I think I've always maintained that I am rather unattractive - just barely attractive enough to not experience desexualization, as the disability theorists define it. I've also said that my physical appearance does me no favors, but is not Quasimodo tier. There are a lot of ways to be unattractive, and it is not just physical appearance that does it. For me...if I had to pull some numbers out of my rear end, it's 2 or 3 parts awkwardness to 1 part physical appearance.

He did it again!

There are a lot of ways to be unattractive, and it is not just physical appearance that does it.

Except you said "I am 20th percentile for physical appearance or so". Pics or it didn't happen.

Ok, good. Once you're working as an MD, you'll be able to get a pragmatic woman. Let go of your delusions and hang-ups. They're what's keeping your from a decent life. You don't need the "hock", you just need to stop running the same bullshit story in your mind every day. It's not true. None of what the mind throws up is real.

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