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Some might argue that not being allowed to use the pronouns we think accurately apply to someone is enforcing ideological conformity.
As I said, "everyone finds them slightly uncomfortable". I'll take that over "one side is perfectly happy with it and the other side is not happy at all".
Unless I'm misunderstanding, "You must adhere to progressive orthodoxy on pronouns or avoid them altogether" does not sound to me like the middle compromise position you're making it out to be.
Not that you should particularly care what I think, but I will say: in all my years here, I've never until now been surprised or disappointed by your decisions pertaining to the rules and administration of this community. Hell, I'm not even sure I've seen a modhat decision by you that I've disagreed with. You've always had an uncanny ability to impartially administrate and to advocate the sort of truly neutral principles that are essential to the flourishing of a community like this. And I'm not at all saying this take of your ruins all that.
I hope, for my unblemished account's sake, that some story about a trans person doesn't become the culture war topic du jour any time soon. I also think that you'd see immense pushback from the community if those rules you propose were actually enforced. I suspect people just haven't read your comment above because it's buried in the previous week's culture war roundup thread.
There's also "you can use 'they' regardless of whether the person in question is OK with it".
I'd say the strong trans-approving position would be "you are required to use the pronouns they want, and if you try to avoid those pronouns, you're a bad person for doing so". We're providing two different ways to avoid that, both of which the extremist left would disapprove of.
For what it's worth, this has come up a few times now, and trans has occasionally been in the news between now and then, and it's just never been an issue. I do think you're overstating the issue here.
Personally, I would make a big distinction between what you're "forced" to read and what you're "forced" to write.
Sure, there is a certain symmetry in that everyone on here might have to read things they disagree with, that's a big part of the project. But I would claim there's a big asymmetry in favor of side A of an issue if only side B has to write around that issue by choosing to either say things they believe to be false or engage in contortionism. Especially when it involves something as hard to avoid as an entire word class.
I assume you'll still be willing to accept some write-asymmetries to encourage a side that is underrepresented on this particular site to come here and engage, which might be a good idea overall, but I just wanted to make this read/write distinction very explicit.
Overall though, I want to end this on a less critical note and second HelmedHorror's comment that you do a very good job keeping this ship afloat.
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Wait so this post is against the rules? I wasn't trying to be antagonistic when I wrote it, my thinking was that pronouns are a sign of respect, and I don't respect Nyberg. Like helmed, I figured that was a neutral application and enforcing a rule against misgendering would be ceding the argument.
Probably, yeah. Nobody reported you, don't worry about it too much, we'd appreciate picking one of the other options next time :V
Ok, good to know.
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