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Nah.
But as to the rest of your comment, was there any evidence that the leader of the group was getting laid by the female members?
Seems like the whole premise of the group is "there's one (1) singular person out there for you, I'm here to help you find them" which seems less likely to lead to drug-fueled orgies than claiming "I am Jesus born again, bang me to secure your place in heaven" or whatever.
And that's why you would think, as word spread, that men might join the group and play the game for a chance to become a given woman's "twin flame".
I guess the question is why did men's innate horniness drive more of them to the group?
Not much, but you get the weird gymbro/tradbro sort of thing like perineum tanning and whatever the Liver King advocates. And of course there are those who accuse Andrew Tate of being a cult leader.
Anyhoo, my last thought is that as we've seen a large rise in the share of single adults, I bet more cult-like groups that promise to help find love rise to prominence in the near future.
I think that's a fair assumption to make in the case of most modern cults, even if it's not necessarily applicable in this one.
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