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I'm not sure how to think about this sort of thing. On the one hand, I don't like that society and feminists find so many ways to police and label immoral some aspect of just about every avenue men have to find partners, and I wonder if they would be so consistent if the sexes were reversed. I think it's possible for people in these situations to have an organic and balanced romance that forms over time, without any coercion. And really, I do think that most women in subordinate situations like this probably wouldn't fuck someone if they didn't want to, and would sooner quit and go to the press if they felt coerced.
At the same time, I've always been pretty against teachers and students hooking up. My high school had a ridiculous amount of male teachers that everyone knew were fucking some of the senior girls, or recently graduated senior girls. This always struck me as pretty wrong, in that I felt it was crossing a boundary. To be clear, I don't really think those girls were coerced into sex, but I do feel like a good person and teacher would have turned down the opportunities. I guess I'd always been more concerned about the other people in the situations, the other students in the class, and that this situation makes everything weird for everyone. And I've felt like it's the role of a teacher to be a role model, someone to look up to and aspire to, and that known romantic entanglements with students just shatters that, makes him just some sleazy bro.
I'm not sure I can exactly articulate how I've felt about this. Maybe these viewpoints are contradictory and hypocritical.
The pattern of younger-woman with older-man is very common in history, and both parties often prefer it.
But in the modern day it often looks pathetic to be fishing from the kiddie pool, like an adult showing up to a kids' sporting league and winning. Wow, okay.
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The teacher example's got a lot to do with the proximity to the age of consent, though?
Then again I'd feel differently about like 3 different hypothetical situations of
50-something CEO sleeping with fresh, 20 year old Intern in first real job
30-something middle manager sleeping with mid-twenties graduate who is their direct report
40-something senior middle manager sleeping with middler middle manager who's also in their 40s.
Imagine working your ass off, being in that top 0 point whatever percent of the population that could ever be CEO of anything... And then sleeping with some woman your age. It sounds almost autistic: he didn't get the message (that sexual access is one of the main components of the payoff for male success).
I'm not saying sleep with your intern. Or never have a serious relationship. Just that the opportunities and expectations are different for different classes of people.
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Maybe. Though let's say for the sake of argument that we knew all these girls were 18. I'm generally fine with people sleeping with 18 year old women, if the women want to. But in this case, I think I'd still have an issue with it, due to the relationship. It could be that my disgust response is somehow downstream and influenced by the proximity to the age of consent, however, though I don't think so.
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Would you be okay with a guy fucking some of the senior girls or recently graduated graduated senior girls if he wasn't a teacher? Why?
My answer is that it would be okay for a high school teacher to marry one of his students; i.e. to make a lifelong commitment to supporting her and their children in exchange for exclusive sexual access. Conversely, it is not okay for a dude to pump and dump several high school girls, or recent high school graduates; the fact that the man in question happens to be their teacher is completely irrelevant.
I may be wrong, and others may contradict me, but I feel like the predominent view in society is that once a girl is 18, it's not wrong to have sex with her if she so chooses. I generally subscribe to that view. My issue is primarily with the high school teacher student relationship
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