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I have a more or less concrete view of how women discourage promiscuity among themselves. After all, most of us here are probably aware that slut-shaming is usually done by other women, and so on. No reason to go into details here. I can also picture how women’d discourage promiscuity among men. Currently it seems a rather far-fetched scenario, but it’s fair to say that patriarchal systems have entailed a sex cartel among women (obviously not a fully voluntary one), and such systems have existed for a long time. So at least it has a track record.
Men trying to discourage promiscuity among women would run into the very obvious problem of most normies dismissing it as a sign of male jealousy, bitterness and inceldom, unless we’re talking about a rigidly patriarchal society, most of which don’t exist anymore. Normies will always be normies, and comprise the majority, so a cultural shift on an unimaginably large scale would have to happen for this to work.
But how would men discouraging promiscuity among themselves even work? Has it ever happened anywhere? (I suppose your scenario includes this as well.) I doubt it even has a track record. I know that it’s a common view among men that manipulating women into sex by empty promises and lies is despicable or at least pathetic, but that is obviously doesn’t explain all or even most of male promiscuity. It runs into the same problem – people will just think you’re jealous.
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