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Women in your great-grandmother's youth were busy trying to ban alcohol (and even succeeded in a wide variety of cases) and constantly getting men killed for a variety of stupid reasons.
The relationship between the sexes has always been like this. "Your desire will be for your husband, and he shall rule over you", "he [man] will crush your head, and you [woman] will strike his heel", etc.
Women do want this- men, on the other hand, usually call this "the friend zone". The problem with this is that [emotional intimacy] can induce desire for [physical intimacy] in men, and vice versa for women, but that's just the nature of relationships-while-adult, I think. That balance of drives "favors" the male side of the reaction anyway- but I suspect that the solution to this is "well, just make friends with older women" (which is, humorously, just the cougar relationship strategy in the other direction).
X-supremacy movements are absolutely used as justification for absolutely vicious cunt-ery, but I don't think it's really caused by X. In other words, an X to whom a X-supremacy movement appeals, and is very public about their adherence to the movement, is likely already predisposed to being a vicious cunt rather than fruitful co-operation (unless it's fruitful co-operation supremacy, but those ones have their own problems) and is best avoided; choosing a woman who is a vicious cunt when the man isn't himself is [the spear counterpart for the concept of] absolutely "marrying down".
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