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You could consider finding an old cemetery you have a connection to and cleaning it up. Cemeteries slowly decay: the stones get overgrown with moss and lichens, the engraving fades and disappears from weathering, stones fall over and get broken and buried. Groundskeepers and sextons can prevent some of this, but usually their duties don't include repairing anything but the most egregious damage (and sometimes not even then). You'll want to contact the cemetery board and ask for permission first, but they'll probably be happy for the help.
The easiest thing you can do is cleaning off the stones. The stuff you want is called "D/2 Biological Solution"; this is what they use at Arlington to keep the headstones white. The befores-and-afters can be quite striking, particularly for marble stones which can go from greenish-gray to gleaming white. The typical procedure is to spray the stone with water, then with D/2, then scrape the worst of the growth off with a plastic scraper and let it sit (the D/2 will continue to work for weeks). A few hours a week is enough to make a marked improvement over the course of a few months. You can get more involved and get into resetting and repairing stones, but that requires a larger time commitment and more specialized skills.
If you do this you'll begin to develop connections to the people buried there. You'll find the graves of people who lived long and fulfilling lives and people who suffered tragic accidents, people who were very important to the town and people who ended up buried there by happenstance, people who were very wealthy and people who weren't. If you're in America, you'll find graves of people who emigrated from the old world (and may even be written in a foreign language) and people whose families lived in that town for generations. You'll see names you recognize from streets and parks, and maybe even from friends and relatives. You'll get a sense of what it might have been like to live in a time when deadly diseases were more prevalent and every family had a child or two (or more) who died from smallpox or diphtheria. You'll also spend a lot of time around monumental sculpture and may even uncover some sentimental poetry.
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