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This new man-o-sphere stuff seems quite harmful, not least to the believers -- at least with PUA there was a goal, and a clear (if sleazy) path to that goal. Now it seems to be bitter black pills all the way down, which is mostly just a self reinforcing death spiral.
Many things are accepted as fact that (based on my experience) are just dumb, most obviously around virginity and the attractiveness of women over 30. (aging in general I guess -- many of these guys seem to think that it will be all over for them sexually at 30 as well, which is just.. weird)
I mostly just tune this sort of discussion out by now, as it's useless to argue with insane premises sincerely believed -- although I do try to repeat the helpful advice of 'go to a dive bar and get drunk if you are not getting action with OLD' from time to time, but there are always many reasons why this is not feasible.
I'm sure others feel the same -- so don't get the impression that the Chad-Stacy whining (which I agree with cimrafa is mainly jealousy related) is all that representative of what people think in this space. It's just that there's nothing much there to talk about, and we can't exactly ban that line of discussion, so there's not much to be done.
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