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Briefly responding to the two comments here from @TheDag, although my reply to @FarNearEverywhere somewhat covered them both:
Uh huh. Let the fatigue flow through you. When sorting by “new” comments, you’re one of the most active commenters here, so it appears you have quite a bit of energy to spare.
“Deranged”, “annoying,” “crazy,” “angry,” “hate[ful],” etc. are all too typical labels lobbied onto wrong-thinkers, as a shaming tactic and an attempt to poison the well, where the targets range from Brexiters, American Trump-voters, white and Asian men against affirmative action, parents questioning the LGBT propaganda in their children’s schools. Nothing novel here.
Not familiar with Manson’s body of work, but I’m glad that some men, like yourself, were lucky enough to latch yourself onto One of the Good Ones, and to eventually transcend such “toxic, anti-social and antagonistic” mindsets in reaching such a state of nirvana and enlightenment.
I suppose I am, to a similar degree to which I worsen the problem of relationships between job seekers and employers, investors and financial advisors, tax-payers and government, by providing advice—or recounting a summary of my personal experiences—on job-seeking, investing, and tax-minimization here, elsewhere on the interwebs, or in person. I've not promoted the Wonderfulness of employers, financial advisors, and governments.
Yes, the mature response is to just be a Decent Person and a Real Man, continue to cooperate in the face of defection, and win hearts and minds by kindly walking women and their allies through issues as if you’re their “boys”, brothers, fathers, etc.
Obviously, I’m not going to treat individual women, or women as whole, like they’re a younger (or older, for that matter) female family member, just as I don’t treat individual men, or men as a whole, like they’re a younger (or older) male family member.
It's indeed all so tiresome.
Thanks for replying! Didn't realize I was one of the most frequent commenters here, I should probably scale that back a bit.
Totally fair point. I get personally annoyed by the argument you put forward because I fell fully into it for many years, and it ruined many of my closest relationships with people which I will never get back. It also turned me bitter and angry at the world for a long time.
At the same time, there was a lot of truth in it. I learned to be more confident and the importance of actually contributing to the world instead of complaining.
I would (with some caveats) generally say the employers, financial advisors, and governments are made up of people who have good intentions. I think the tendency to act as if they've all defected and there isn't a single good employer our there is indeed 'toxic,' in that it's an unhealthy mindset which will only lead to more suffering. Same goes for women.
This is a caricature of my position, and I'm pretty damn far from any sort of actual 'enlightenment,' but you're not necessarily wrong. I'm generally a fan of more civil strategies. In terms of actually doing this it doesn't look like being what you would call a 'nice guy,' it instead looks more like being a stern father. The ability to be truly kind and help others requires a relationship with anger, which I find to be the central issue with redpill esque arguments.
I know I came across as a bit of a dick in my post, but I am genuinely sympathetic to your position. I believed in the same things you believed, once.
Don't do that if you're thinking you're bothering others, imo commenting frequently is fine if your posts are often good and yours are (and often get upvotes). And you're not the most frequent, netstack has 500 more than you, I'm about the same in total.
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