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I think your entire premise is wrong. People don't generally assume that someone who is unsuccessful with romantic relationships is lacking in moral virtue. That might be the case, but there are many other explanations: he's terrible at dating, he has unrealistic standards, he just doesn't put himself out there enough, he has some baggage that becomes evident once a woman shows interest (not necessarily the same as "lacking in moral virtue"), or he has so convinced himself that he's undateable (because he's short) that it becomes a self-fulfilling prophecy.
Yes, there are men (and women) who try and try and fail and never find love. That's very sad. But it's never because of any one thing (like height).
Look dude, ima be honest. You've been banging this "Short men can't land anyone but a morbidly obese hag" drum for a while now, to the point that you've actually been warned about giving it a rest. It's tiresome, and when you refuse every bit of advice that's been given to you, starting a top-level thread to pose it as a "general question" about why short men who can't get dates are treated so unfairly, it's no less tiresome.
This post is... okay, I guess. If it were anyone else posting it, it would be fine. But seeing your name, I immediately knew what the post would be about before reading it. So seriously, give it a rest. Yes, consider this an invocation of the single-issue posting rule.
It's not just short guys. I'd argue it's the invisibly disabled and essentially those that look at least decent on paper. The physically disabled and deformed get a different but somewhat adjacent kind of bullshit.
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Without any clear limits this seems like a blanket justification to mod any post for any reason so long as the poster recalls the same themes, which literally everybody here (and everywhere) always does to a degree.
Le Comité better think about what they're doing on this one, because focusing on a handful of issues to a weird degree is almost the sum total of this website's content.
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Is this how the single-issue posting rule is going to be applied? I see multiple comments on non-dating subjects in /u/SkookumTree‘s first two pages of comments.
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