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Full disclosure, I was put off, confused even, by some of your terminology, in particular "legacy wife," which, if I understand it correctly and without googling it (because I should be able to understand the juxtaposition of two very easy words in this way), means "wife" but presumably now they are divorced because the guy has transitioned or decided to be female? I simply don't deal with trans issues in my daily life beyond what I read here (and, previously, reddit) but I guess it's something to look forward to, as Japan seems to latch on to US cultural trends to some degree, with a bit of lag time.
You also use the passive voice "received texts" but in the context of the remainder of your post I have to assume this person crushing on you was the one sending you such texts. If so, it seems odd not to have made that clear. You also insert rather loaded terms in your post here (MAGA supporting, misgendering, both presumably intended as slurs) which suggests you may not regularly read the same posts here that I do, or perhaps you have a different audience in mind than me.
Who is reporting the crush, chatty-about-you behavior to you? What is this person's or these people's likely motivation for doing so? Why would this have made you go to HR, as opposed to seeding the same grapevine with a Not Interested, that it might get back to said obsessor, as has happened throughout the course of human history? And I also wonder why you're being contacted by the guy's wife. (That I call him a guy is a function of my age, don't get alarmed, I don't mean any hate )
It seems to me that you are taking a much different route than I would all around, and I'm trying to get my head around it.
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