The Wednesday Wellness threads are meant to encourage users to ask for and provide advice and motivation to improve their lives. It isn't intended as a 'containment thread' and any content which could go here could instead be posted in its own thread. You could post:
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Requests for advice and / or encouragement. On basically any topic and for any scale of problem.
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Updates to let us know how you are doing. This provides valuable feedback on past advice / encouragement and will hopefully make people feel a little more motivated to follow through. If you want to be reminded to post your update, see the post titled 'update reminders', below.
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Advice. This can be in response to a request for advice or just something that you think could be generally useful for many people here.
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Encouragement. Probably best directed at specific users, but if you feel like just encouraging people in general I don't think anyone is going to object. I don't think I really need to say this, but just to be clear; encouragement should have a generally positive tone and not shame people (if people feel that shame might be an effective tool for motivating people, please discuss this so we can form a group consensus on how to use it rather than just trying it).
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You need to minimize contact with this person and if you do have to communicate with him for business purposes, do so only through official company channels like email. Avoiding him altogether would be best. Absolutely do not meet or communicate with him outside of work.
Start leaving a paper tail with HR voicing your concerns and discomfort over this “crush,” even if they’re unlikely to be immediately sympathetic/helpful. This way if/when things blow-up there’ll already be records and documentation in place. You definitely don’t want to let this person get first-mover advantage with HR. And like @grognard said, start looking for a new job.
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