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Culture War Roundup for the week of August 21, 2023

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How quickly did you think that the story is entirely made up?

Pretty damn quickly. Back in the old days I tried out these dating apps, first without stating anything about my job, just my education. Didn't get many matches and those that did were mostly not interested. Then I added my job (quant at a prestigious firm), it did not make one whit of a difference.

I've never consistently stated my job nor education on OLD or social media, aside from the occasional times when I was doing A/B testing. Doing so always struck me as poor opsec, just more material for a potential psycho-chick to latch onto.

When I did, job/education made little difference relative to height, looks, and photos for preselection/female mate-choice copying. A lot of jobs are just also simply illegible to normie chicks.

Quantitative Developer at Renaissance Technologies would be an extremely elite position to hold, both in terms of difficulty and compensation (likely much more than that of all but the most superstar roles in professional sports). Yet, all of that would just be random word-noises to the modal young attractive woman, even those who nominally work in finance or tech.

Same here. Tried a a few variations of Data Scientist/ Data Engineer/ML Engineer at a well-known company and it made fuckall difference from when I was a college student. (I only swipe on women who probably make a fraction of what I make)

Worth taking into account how these apps work though. If you go an extended period with no one swiping right on you, your profile's mmr drops, eventually into a bracket that has no real women in it at all, and your profile simply won't be seen. At that point you could change it to "7ft NBA star + astronaut" with pics to match and you wouldn't be able to match.

Same with me when I added my height (6'4"). Girls are just picky across the board.