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I think this is wrong and also cope. On some level, every company has incentive to sell a defective product so that people keep coming back for more. In the real world, people get wise quick and leave.
There is no shortage of “uncool” places that women avoid for fear of being hit on by low-status men, yet Tinder has been around for ten years. It is in fact the place where the hot singles in your area hang out.
An incentive to sell a product which wears out or becomes obsolete. And there are counter-incentives. But the counter-incentives are mostly absent for dating apps, for various reasons. The free-for-customers model basically can't be used for a "durable" dating app, because the normal way you make money off more durable goods is by charging more for them. But to charge more for a "durable" dating app, you need to convince customers you actually are "durable". And you actually have to DO it, unless you're running a short-term scam. But to do all that, you need to get people to sign up (because you can't match people unless you have people to match)... and why would they? Who would sign up for a paid dating app? Mostly those desperate and striking out on the free ones... which means you'll get a lot of desperate men and a few desperate women, all probably with "issues", and you can't run your business with that material.
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