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I'd have to go through your posts, but I feel like establishing a pattern where you mix a bunch of topics during the course of an argument would be easy enough. The challenge would be to get evidence that you do it on purpose, in order to muddle the issues. Thankfully your approach does not require much in terms of evidence, all I'd have to do is write a plausible story, where your actions are interpreted in an uncharitable light.
Because you wouldn't be undermining your own position. It's pretty clear that the reason you disagree with Murphy is that she thinks all pornography and all prostitution is bad, and you think it can be bad, but in some cases can be ok.
Usually when you accuse someone of being evasive or avoidant, it means they are deliberately trying to not answer a specific question. Her hanging up on Destiny is not evidence of her avoiding a question. There are many other reasons that could explain her refusing to continue the conversation, including the ones she directly stated prior to leaving the stream, or Destiny's conduct during the debate outlined by jkf.
"Sacred" in this context just means "regarding it higher than other day-to-day activities", it can mean anything from "only between married couples" to "only if you feel an emotional connection to the person" (or what the kids these days call "demisexual"). "Casual sex" usually means "outside of a romantic relationship, and with no expectation of it leading to one" it too can mean anything from "sucking off random dudes in bathroom stalls" to "I met someone at a conference, they're from the other side of the world, so there was no chance of it going anywhere, but we were vibing so great together that I spent the night with them anyway". Between the corners of these extremes there's plenty of space for someone being ok with casual sex, but believing it's sacred enough to not be for sale.
It does rely on it. If the "sex is sacred" argument is kept on the table, you can't go on to declare that the likely reason she did not express the argument you outlined, is because it would force her to modify her position. There's still the possibility that that she's just going with the "sex is sacred" approach instead.
And these are all very different from what you wrote in your outline, so I'm not overlooking them, you're moving the goalposts.
"Women are vulnerable (during sex)" does not mean there's an element of violence and coercion in sex. "Selling sex is coercive, because there's money involved" does not imply the same logic holds for wage work.
If you didn't attribute it to her, it makes even less sense to claim that she didn't express these views, because it would force her to modify her position.
Yeah, but that's the problem with making claims with no evidence - it makes "is not" a perfectly valid response that needs to be addressed.
I understand that you're not convinced by my argument that there's enough evidence that Murphy is acting dishonestly, though keep in mind that I didn't claim my argument was conclusive or irrefutable. That's why I included an epistemological warning up top.
What you're doing here (noting how this specific behavior of hers can have an innocent explanation) is great pushback! I offer one explanation and you offer another, but unless you develop why your explanation is more likely, we're kind of left in the agnostic "who can know?" position. If that's your position then cool.
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