The Wednesday Wellness threads are meant to encourage users to ask for and provide advice and motivation to improve their lives. It isn't intended as a 'containment thread' and any content which could go here could instead be posted in its own thread. You could post:
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Requests for advice and / or encouragement. On basically any topic and for any scale of problem.
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Advice. This can be in response to a request for advice or just something that you think could be generally useful for many people here.
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Encouragement. Probably best directed at specific users, but if you feel like just encouraging people in general I don't think anyone is going to object. I don't think I really need to say this, but just to be clear; encouragement should have a generally positive tone and not shame people (if people feel that shame might be an effective tool for motivating people, please discuss this so we can form a group consensus on how to use it rather than just trying it).
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Update:
Some of you might remember that I was playing in a recreational sport and had an annoying person to deal with.
She had reported a fellow player and board member to the national group and was generally disliked by multiple other other members.
We removed her from the email group, and didn't say why. I learned from another board member that she had a history of reporting lots of people, so they probably ignored the report.
After removing her from the email list she noticed a few weeks later. She sent me an email asking about it. I did not respond. I didn't see any way it would go well for me to be the bearer of bad news.
I am not generally a fan of ghosting people, but if someone has demonstrated a willingness to retaliate via reporting to higher authorities then I don't see any reason to stick my neck out. She has brought on the dislike that got her removed, and the ghosting that did not let her know why.
I think you're doing the right thing. It's so hard to not respond to someone that's asking a question, even if you know that you're going to get nothing but bad faith, grievance, and aggravation out of responding. Sometimes you just have to fight that natural impulse to be polite and decent and realize that not everyone deserves a response.
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Great to hear bud, for what it's worth I think that's the right call. Reporters are no joke.
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