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Culture War Roundup for the week of July 31, 2023

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I cannot come up with a solution here, and this makes me very sympathetic to people who are trying to do it the right way. There isn't a right way. There's never been a right way. There's just a lot of wrong ways.

reminds me of this now impossible to find Horace and Pete episode by Louis CK.

It runs through Louis CK's obvious discomfort of having fucked a 'likely' trans person. What I love about the exchange is that nothing Louis says is wrong. He is trying, but there is an obvious elephant in the room. There is clearly something off. And no matter how much the 'likely' trans person tries to articulate her side and no matter how accepting and subservient Louis CK shows himself as, the tension never goes away. It's still in the air, the unanswered question.

The 2 lines that I think comes closest to asking the right question is :

A person has the right to assume certain things. -Louis CK

Yes, almost there. (I don't mean this as snark. I can sense a certain proximity to the crux of the argument, but I too haven't been able to phrase it properly)

So, a person who who transitions and becomes a female is only allowed to have sex with someone who specifically gets off on fcking transgender people? But she can't... do the one thing that makes her a woman, she can't fck men. Unless they're freaks who dig chicks that used to have dicks. - The trans person

In that sense, Trans women are very much women in that they feel 'entitled' to things, entitled to sex with a certain type of 'normal hot' man. Life sucks and a random drastic step didn't fix it ? Yeah, get in line.

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