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Wellness Wednesday for July 19, 2023

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I've decided to move to the other side of the planet. Specifically, I'm applying for a two year working holiday visa in New Zealand, and hoping to leave at the end of this year.

For some time, I've been pretty depressed. Depressed with myself, my life, and lacking any kind of real drive, even finding it difficult to generate desires. It's been particularly bad over the past month and I've struggled even to go to the gym, which is unusual for me. I don't know if moving to another country is going to fix me, but it might change me. I find myself wanting this, actually excited or hopeful about the future. It's a little bit scary, though. I've never travelled alone, far out of Europe, or for a significant period of time before, and this is all three.

New shit is always good if you need a shakeup.

Well, I definitely feel like I need a shakeup. But also I want to do it, too.

In the spirit of contrarianism - Is urban/suburban/rural NZ even that different from urban/suburban/rural US? It's all just 'modern city blob' at that point, I think. Why not move to a different part of the US (or europe if that's where you are)? Much easier logistically

Well, I live in the UK. And you're right that it's a similar country. But I think that the logistic difficulty is part of the appeal.

Why NZ specifically? I work with a lot of Kiwis and they honestly seem like extremely nice people. Maybe I'm hoping some of those qualities rub off on me a bit!

Best of luck! From middle America I knew an acquaintance who moved there after graduate school (all but dissertation) but by all appearances seems to really enjoy it.

Thanks. I know a lot of New Zealanders at work and they're generally lovely guys.

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