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My own uninformed opinion is that there are a number (how many I wouldn't dare try and put a figure on) of young women (and I mean young, as in mid-teens up) who have absorbed all the Pride flags in the classroom and "LGBT is the bestest thing ever" anti-discrimination stories from whatever books were in the school library as they were kids onwards (I suppose Heather Has Two Mommies is antique nowadays).
And of course, they are fully up on The Problem Is White Cishetnormativity, so they want to be good allies. But that means if they are white cishet themselves, that puts them at the bottom of the stack of the oppressed and cool, and top of the stack of the oppressors and terrible.
They're young, they don't want to be ostracised. So some kind of LGBTQ+ identity gives them some protection in their social circle, and being bi is the easiest way of getting that. They don't need to do anything, just "I kinda think I could kiss a girl" is enough.
I think non-binary is the next wave of this; cut your hair short, dress like a boy (jeans and shirts are unisex anyway) and you don't have to do much more than that to have a protected identity which takes you handily out of the "oppressor" classification and into the "oppressed" one, where all the cool kids are.
I have some sympathy for the young and uncertain who only want to fit in with what the social waters they swim in are demanding. I have not so much for those who make the demands and want to wreck lives if you don't fall into line.
Non-binary is just the logical place for anyone who takes gender theory seriously. If one genuinely believes that Men Be Like and Women Be Like, and that one's choice to do the cultural associations of one or the other indicates one's gender; then one's only options are to identify as non-binary or to act like a complete stereotype. There is no human being I have ever known where I couldn't nitpick a single thing that was weirdly masculine or feminine about them. If you take Gender Theory as a true believer you have no choice. My dad is the very model of a boomer farm kid turned small business owner paterfamilias, he loves the movie The Devil Wears Prada and tries to convince me to watch it every time it's on TV. NB. You're a nice Catholic girl, but do women really argue so stridently on the internet? NB. I can't get through half an hour without doing something NB. Hell, I know Trans people, most of them retain a habit or two from their prior days, NB.
I know this is anecdote rather than data, but the non-binary people I see are those who present as such online, and I'd give a rough estimate that 99% of those are women (because they look like women, no matter if they get the butch haircut) and the remainder are weird men or genuinely unsure could be either male or female.
I do think there is a difference between "I'm NB, that means I'm not male or female, sometimes I'm both, sometimes I'm one or the other" and "George is a big manly lumberjack who is a former Marine and he loves little fluffy kittens"/"Sancha is a girly girl who dresses in pink like her idol, Barbie, and if you ever need your motorbike's engine stripped down she's the one to do it" version of "this person does not adhere 100% to gender stereotypes".
'Non-binary' as in "men inherit traits from their mothers, women inherit traits from their fathers, you can have interests about X but that does not contradict your membership of the sex Y" is natural.
But non-binary as I see it used is all part of the political and '500 genders' thing, where there is a very definite way set out of how you should 'dress like this, act like this, talk like this' about it - at least in the self-reinforcing groups that talk about it.
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