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Well, maybe what I should have said was "a clear view of the question probably requires us to taboo the word 'unhealthy'" and try to figure out what is really being asked, but it's never quite obvious to me when is the best time to make that move, as it can seem a bit uncharitable to open with "I don't think the question you're asking is the one I should answer."
There's more I could probably say (e.g. about the number of rainbow flags likely flying within a mile radius of your office, if donut shops are that densely packed where you are) but I think the main thing is, "my" definition is not wildly unconstrained--rather, what people decide are "actionable" versus "nonactionable" health choices is wildly unprincipled, increasingly governed by culture war battle lines (see bans on: gas stoves, pornography, sugary beverages, masks...), and I'm just pointing that out.
To be honest, Scout's Honor, you'd be wrong. In terms of publicly displayed flags at businesses/institutions rather than at homes, I can think of two? The one soft-Prot church by the golf course, and my yoga studio. Probably a third somewhere in my favorite coffee shop, half the staff is visibly queer, but I don't actually remember seeing it. If we're counting private houses that number increases somewhat, but then I'd need to include grocery stores and gas stations that sell donuts even if they aren't the main product. I actually think I see fewer pride flags than commercial establishments selling donuts in my average day.
I often find myself agreeing with @Walterodim here, and think a lot of my disconnect with the more rabidly anti-woke posters on themotte is that I don't live in an area or work in an industry where I face constant pressure to conform to woke shibboleths.
Where you are: how is the idea that gay people should be celibate viewed? How is it viewed if a gay person chooses celibacy because he believes that gay relationships aren't for him and that it wouldn't be fair to an opposite-sex partner if he was in a relationship with her? What if it's a lesbian choosing celibacy...perhaps because of religious belief? They don't think that other people's relationships are any of their business and support people being able to do what they want, gay marriage, all that...but believe that their God wants them to be celibate, or are maybe celibate out of personal conviction.
Kookie. Nobody believes that around me.
Homosexuality exists but homosexuals should be celibate was a fallback entrenchment in a war that was lost a decade ago. It was a counter argument to "Born This Way" which was so effective it is now almost outmoded on the left. While the Right is circling away from it with the Groomer meme.
Yeah. The Groomer meme... has some truth to it with fetishizing and making transness fashionable. That is bullshit: hawking irreversible medical interventions to kids as anything other than a last resort. If Johnny wants to wear dresses and be called Suzie, fine, maybe that's his generation's rebellion. Same for Johnny taking Mike to the prom. I'm gathering that that's commonplace and acceptable where you are, and that many kids tell their parents that they're not straight...and get a "That's OK, we still love you, do you need a ride to soccer practice?" from them.
As I understand it, you guys are in a liberal stronghold, a super-blue area. Which is different from the suburban-Northeast tossup territory I grew up in. You could see Trump signs, MAGA bumper stickers, rainbow flags, and Hillary or Biden signs on the same street.
Nope. Purple-est township in the swing county of the central swing state.
Moreover, my point isn't that Groomer is or isn't an accurate meme, it's merely that it is incompatible with the "Gay, but Celibate" meme. "Gay, but Celibate" assumes one must be Born This Way, Groomer assumes that one can be, you know, Groomed into LGBTQWERTY activities.
"Gay, but Celibate" could also mean that you dislike straight sex, think gay sex is attractive, and don't want to act on or modify your desires.
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