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Culture War Roundup for the week of June 19, 2023

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So why don't people want to be called "cis"?

How often do you see the word 'cis' used in a positive context? I'm not even talking about the dismissive 'They're just a cis gendered ... ' that is prevalent on parts of the internet. When have you heard someone say something like 'I'm happy I'm cis'?

Considering how it's used (for the most part) and the fact that it is a label applied to people who didn't choose it (for the most part); I don't see why people would want to be called cis.

My usual phrasing is ‘I am preferentially (as opposed to apathetically) cisgender.’ Which means, yeah, I’m cisgender and happy about it. Happy to say so anytime :)

Never. But I wanted to be a bit less anecdotal and a bit more charitable in my top-level comment.

I wanted to be a bit less anecdotal and a bit more charitable in my top-level comment.

That's fair, I respect that.

Being charitable to attackers is being uncharitable to targets.

It seems you have rediscovered the principle pushed by Ibram X. Kendi and company that there is no such thing as being neutral and by being neutral you are siding with the oppressor.

If one side is actually in the wrong, and the other actually is in the right, attempting to find a middle ground is in fact ceding justice to the unjust. This doesn't apply if the rightness and wrongness of the parties is actually in question. The problem with Kendi isn't that he labels people oppressors, it's that he does so based on no reasonable foundation. Here, the foundation has already been ceded.

"Charitable" is not the same as neutral.

The whole ethos of this forum is to be charitable and assume the best form of your opponent's argument, regardless of how wrong you imagine it/they might be. In the interest of avoiding the easy construction of strawman arguments.

I think you're describing an extreme example, where whoever it is you might be arguing with produces only incomprehensible babble or wild contortions of logic. I'd need a specific example to decide whether I agree with you that in such a case any charitable interaction would be pointless. I would also suggest it is very easy to simply dismiss one's interlocutor/opponent as beyond hope/nuts/irrational, having "no steelman" version, because then no effort need be spent trying to imagine his or her POV.

Steelmanning as I understand it does not mean constructing an elaborate facade of reasonable, fact-based arguments on behalf of your opponent, where you must engage in mental contortionism and grant them every concession--or "accept" their assumptions, as you've phrased it. It simply means making (or assuming) the clearest best form of their argument--which you can then refute.

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hence the Quokka meme that is so richly deserved in the rat community.

Haven't you heard, the new meme animal is the Lemur, the one who lurks.