The Wednesday Wellness threads are meant to encourage users to ask for and provide advice and motivation to improve their lives. It isn't intended as a 'containment thread' and any content which could go here could instead be posted in its own thread. You could post:
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I feel like I could have written this, especially the parts about being much more likeable and fun when intoxicated. Granted good old alcohol on its own usually does the trick for me, but the Phenibut sounds interesting.
I don’t have any good advice for you. I’ve been dealing with social anxiousness my whole life. I have a few close friends, my parents, two of my brothers, and a girlfriend who I all love, but I absolutely feel socially isolated. I haven’t made a new close connection in years, and it’s caused me significant agitation and anxiety. I’ve always wondered whether I’m actually on the spectrum or if my social confidence has been harmed from rejection and isolation over the years. Hard to say.
I’ve tried many things to help fix this: sports, theater, improv, therapy, antidepressants, but at the end of the day, I just generally do not feel comfortable around new people. Clearly I want/need people around me, but I struggle to actually feel comfortable. All I can say is that it sucks big time. I’m thankful for my intelligence, but sometimes I’d rather be a moron with social skills than an intelligent loner.
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